Category: "Tuning into your own rhythm of life"

The space in between – transitions. By Nadhira Razack

April 30th, 2015 | no comments

My body was giving me signs that it was time..

I noticed myself getting angry when my 2 ½ year old would feed and that irritation in my system was letting me know it’s time to reclaim my body.. reclaim my space again.
I’ve been learning so much about the natural cycles and rhythms in nature when you know it’s just Time..
Here’s how I’ve seen the transition:

  • The awareness that something’s got to change.
  • Letting Go of what’s not working
  • Marking the transition with a ritual, ceremony or celebration
  • Enjoying the new space you’re in while everyone finds their right place again

The above steps played out for me in the following way:
I got the awareness that Aqeel needed to stop feeding in October 2014 before his second birthday and I thought it would be really easy for me to wean him because I was in the UK for a retreat and I felt that separation would be good for both myself and Aqeel and that when I came back.. everything would be hunky dory and we would have started the weaning process.

What do you think he wanted as soon as I got home from the airport? A boob of course 😉

I thought I could get off easy – no tears, no drama : ) Yet, The Universe knew I had some learning and growing to do to come out the other end more Conscious and more self aware and in my seat as the mother I choose to be.

I haven’t known what it’s like to have my body completely to myself. I noticed myself getting angry when he would feed and that irritation in my system was letting me know it’s time to reclaim my body.. reclaim my space again.

Yet I didn’t know how to navigate it without some support..  I felt like such a wimp everytime I would cave into his demands for a boob at night : )

My need to be liked and loved coming up! aaah! So it’s taken me from October until April to actually make that break.

 

The lesson?

The awareness might be present.. the work to do the action of letting go though is usually more uncomfortable because there might be hidden dynamics ruling the show that you might be unconscious of.. because they are hidden from your view. Thank goodness I had the sense to allow someone I trusted to hold me through it so I could see how I could shift my beingness so that when Aqeel did kick up a fuss and he kicked and wailed at night,  I had the presence and the strength to just Be with it all.

Letting go isn’t easy. There’s always that sadness that washes over you. I’ve had a few sleepless nights this past week, rocking Aqeel and letting him know he can’t have Mummy’s boo boo’s anymore and just holding him through that.. and of course shedding a few tears of sadness myself because breastfeeding him has been such a huge source of connection to my boy.

My realisations this month in my own life has been around ~ Transitions and Marking them through ritual.

So with Aqeel.. he Loves when mummy bakes a cake so I told him we were going to celebrate him stepping into being the big boy with a cake so I looked up a Sri Lankan butter cake recipe and we let him have candles and he got to cut his cake and celebrate.

He was so excited he couldn’t wait till the cake came out of the oven  : )

He was so excited he couldn’t wait till the cake came out of the oven : )

It’s been a week now and I’ve started to be okay with it and feel that sense of freedom in my own space and Aqeel is getting accustomed to having a new way of going to sleep and not having to wake up in the middle of the night.

 

I share this so that if you’re going through a transition in your own life.. you can start to see the different phases you’re going through so you can just Be through it all and not fight it.

My biggest celebration is my own transition from child mother to big mother and owning it.

Reply and let me know what you’re sifting through right now. Would love to hear from you x

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What the dolphins taught me about business : Lesson 1 By Nadhira Razack

November 14th, 2012 | no comments

Two weeks ago I embarked on an adventure! It all came about wrapped up in the form of having this desire to go away somewhere with my husband – just to take a break and go somewhere sunny and ‘beachy’. So what does a gal do? Research! I get on google and look up places we could possibly go to for a short break – Bali came up, Fiji, Northern Queensland. The more I researched the more tired I became. Nothing spoke to me. My husband and I couldn’t agree on a place we’d like to go. I had more of a villa in mind..  He wasn’t too keen on the idea – wanting to stay at a hotel instead.

In frustration I just gave up on the search and then remembered.. someone always knows the answer. So I turned it over to God (insert your word – Spirit/Source your Higher Self). I literally looked up and said “God..where would you have me go?” and in that second I received a flash – I saw dolphins.

Okay – so Now I have some direction. I needed to find a place that had dolphins! My google search had some focus. I looked for adventures on swimming with dolphins in Australia. I called up my friend Manchoon in Perth and picked his brain about dolphin swims in the area. Again not too much luck because of the season and it being cold – the place lost its appeal.
I then came across a video on facebook of two amazing fellow entrepreneurs Amanda Moxley and Christina Morrassi who had just been swimming with wild dolphins in Kona, Hawaii – that really caught my eye. A mermaidpreneur as she likes to call herself, Dana Richardson was leading guided tours for women to go out to sea and experience swimming with wild dolphins.  That was it! I kept getting drawn to the videos and photos from that trip and since then couldn’t stop thinking about the experience.

It took me courage to even reach out to Dana Richardson – http://www.danamermaid.com to even ask her about what it would take to get out there..I had no idea what it would entail to join Dana but I took the first step anyway.  (Hint: When something’s a real desire for your soul, you can often feel nervous about taking the first step).  I put my nerves aside and decided to send Dana a message on facebook to let her know I’d like to connect with her.

Here’s a picture of me and Dana on the boat : )

Dana Mermaid and myself on the boat 🙂

 

 

Lesson 1:

As entrepreneurs we sometimes think we have all the answers and push through to make things happen. That’s part of what makes us unique right – we don’t usually sit around waiting for things to happen. Yet it pays to slow down and tune into Source to ensure we are going with what our soul has in store for us – which is sometimes grander and more profound than we can imagine if we just relied on our own common sense of what we’d like to do and when.

How can you apply Lesson 1?

You can apply this to everyday decisions like “what do I do in this moment?”  – if you’re ever looking at a long list of activities you need to complete. Ask for guidance on what activity you are required to begin with first. It might be completely different than you had imagined. It might not even be on the list you wrote for yourself. You could get a message saying “Go clean the kitchen drawer”.  The lesson is in learning to not judge what you receive as being silly or not on purpose for you. Your soul already knows what you require in each moment to get you where you need to go.

Stay tuned for more lessons from my swim with the dolphins in the upcoming weeks..

 

Let me know if you’ve had a similar experience of having to hand it over to Source. Love to hear your comments!.

What’s really going on when you don’t always get what you want..

June 26th, 2012 | no comments

This topic came to me because I’ve had a situation that I’ve dealt with recently where I was hitting roadblock after roadblock and not getting what I wanted. I’ve also seen this happen in some instances for my clients and I figured it’s time we talk about why we don’t always get what we want sometimes.

The particular experience below relates to my pregnancy : ) Snuck in an announcement there didn’t I? If you haven’t been following me on facebook – here’s the news : ) I’m a first time mum to be and as I write this I’m at week 17 : )

So how does this relate to ‘not getting what you want’? It came into play when I hit so many “No’s” when it came to finding a hospital to birth my baby. This whole experience was new to me. It felt like I was just being rejected left right and centre. My first choice of hospital just said flat out that they can’t accept me because their registry was full for births in November 2012 – so “please call another hospital”.

I was so put off after that phone call. I was spoken to quite rudely and I wasn’t expecting to Not get in when I made that phone call. That was setback #1: Flat out Rejection.

Ready for the others?

Attempt #2 with Hospital 2: Initially I thought I got in and I CELEBRATED… I was over the moon! It was the same hospital that my niece was born in. I was so impressed with the lady whom I spoke to over the phone. She told me how I could get a place there so I followed the steps and kept my fingers crossed.

Setback #2:A week later I get a letter saying “Sorry you don’t qualify to be admitted to this hospital for your delivery as you fall outside our zone – please contact your local hospital instead”

I was gutted.

You wonder why you don’t get what you want sometimes. There’s always a reason , except sometimes you don’t quite know WHY things aren’t going your way.

This is where there’s always something greater at work you know? Like an unseen force, (God/Source) who might know what’s best for you – His vision for you so He’s just rearranging some events around to help you see what He wants you to see.

Dalai Lama Quote

The problem is you might only be connecting with your ‘plan’ which in my case happened to be ‘give birth in hospital.’ I thought that was my only option -it’s what everybody else does right?

What you may not see when everything is going wrong or Not according to ‘your plan’ – is that perhaps there’s a Better vision for you that’s in your highest good – something that you hadn’t even considered yet.

You can get upset about your current circumstances – which I did in the beginning. I just got emotional one day from doing a trip to my local hospital (trying out a 3rd option) even though intuitively it felt out of place with my plan. Just from driving around that place I knew I couldn’t have my baby there – it was just a horrible feeling that I got inside – you know that intuitive hit or gut feel that it’s totally Not right for you?

I didn’t bother sending my application in to this hospital because I knew internally for me it was a NO.

Sometimes when things don’t go your way and you feel like you’ve run out of options.. the best thing you can do is have faith, that there’s something more to this. Sometimes you can’t see Why something’s not going your way.

In my emotional state I was in no position to make proper decisions on where else I wanted to have my baby. The best thing you can do is just play it S.A.F.E. Play it S.A.F.E. you ask?? Well, not in the traditional sense ; ) This one’s for those of you who are courageous enough to live the way your soul wants to live – and bring those desires to fruition. If you’re game read on.

S.A.F.E. : Here are the steps:

1) STOP
When this happened to me and I felt like I was hitting roadblock after roadblock with contacting hospitals and getting a place there – that little voice inside (my intuition) spoke up and said “Stop Nadhira” – just stop and take a break. So I listened this time and just completely cut off my researching, talking to anyone about hospitals or even thinking about it.

How to apply this step: STOP what you’re currently doing. This allows you to take stock of whether you’re just doing this because you’re following everyone around you or whether you’re really going after your desires. It will give you some time and the silence required to listen to your inner voice/intuition/ that voice that speaks softly.

2) ALLOW.

I just asked God to give me a sign about what I was meant to do next. Whether this sign came in a dream, a message from a ‘random’ conversation with someone.

Eg. One of the day dreams I constantly received was seeing images of Warburton (an hour’s drive from where I live) and the lush green surrounds there. I had got that sign a few weeks earlier and was guided to perhaps visit the place and just meditate. I didn’t follow the guidance then.
This time once I had surrendered and just asked for guidance my messages were becoming more frequent. I kept seeing more of Warburton in day dreams, whenever I was by myself and in a relaxed state.

How to apply this step: ALLOW yourself to be guided as to the best path forward for you. Pray for guidance. Ask God/Source to be shown the right path for your highest good.

3) FOLLOW.

When I asked for guidance – I didn’t get a straightforward answer – like here you go ” there’s your answer Nadhira – give birth here marked with an X”.

I only got a hint. My hint was “green surrounds – that looked like Warburton”

During that week I got yet another hint – an email that appeared in my inbox inviting me to attend a workshop called ” Reclaim your birth power”. I was available that Saturday and I even asked my husband if he’d like to come with me – and he said Yes. Everything in my gut said “Yes” you need to be there. So I attended.

This step that I took was just the stepping stone that was required for me to act further.

How to apply this step: FOLLOW the guidance you’re given no matter how small it is. Follow the signs, messages and guidance that you do get. Perhaps the first message you get is “Go for a walk!” – and you automatically go – well how is that related to my current situation? How can That be a sign? Don’t question the sign – just follow it. On your walk – you might bump into someone or be inspired out in nature as to what you’re supposed to do next.

4) EXPAND.

I attended the workshop and I felt like I was in the right place at the right time. My awareness was expanded with the options that were available to me to give birth. I didn’t “Have to” give birth in a hospital. I learned that one of the 5 P’s of birthing is the importance of “PLACE” – where do I want to give birth? I breathed a sigh of relief!

So it’s OKAY that I was rejected from all those hospitals and that internally I didn’t even want to give birth at my local hospital. Seems like all along I never really desired a hospital setting to give birth in anyway. I was just not listening to my guidance at the time.

I connected with the lady who hosted the workshop and she helped me further with some tips on where to find a doula and midwife. I began my own search as well at the same time and when I expanded the possibilities I had in front of me I had expanded options too.
I was in a position to connect the dots. Yay!!!

I now knew where I wanted to birth – it was Warburton! That led me to find a Doula (birth attendant)- and guess what – on my facebook search I found a Doula who’s location was – drum roll please! Warbuton! We connected as soon as we spoke and I knew I wanted her to be part of my team.
She then gave me more clues to find a midwife – I got some names and numbers to call and interview some midwives.

How to apply this step: EXPAND on the possibilities available to you from the messages you’ve got and the action you’ve taken with the guidance you got in the previous step. Expand on the messages you’ve been given.

If you find yourself in a situation where you’re unfamiliar with what to do and you’ve started to take some steps and you’re not getting what you want – one clue is that perhaps you’re being guided to STOP and take stock first of what’s not working.

If it’s not working, Allow yourself to ask a question like “Is this what I really want? Is this what I truly desire?”

When I answered that question for myself in this situation I realised – well.. all I want is a beautiful environment to birth my baby. I need to be in a place connected to nature. That’s what’s important to me and the baby.

The answer that I got was NOT “the latest hospital with all the gadgets” , “the most qualified obstetrician”. These were not what I desired. They weren’t important to me. Yet the steps that I took in the beginning were leading me to a hospital where the environment was far from green, far from ‘connected to nature’. No wonder I didn’t get what I wanted eh?

Until I had stopped to ask “what is it that I truly want?” – I kept going in circles and got no result.

So when you’re in a situation and you find yourself not getting anywhere, remember to play it S.A.F.E:
I cannot be happier with what resulted when I initially “didn’t get what I want” : )

I now welcome that as a sign to go inside and play it S.A.F.E. by following the steps above : )

Feel free to comment on experiences that you’ve had to deal with where sometimes not getting what you wanted spurred you on to create a better outcome xx Would love to hear from you : )

Love

Nadhira

P.S. I’m running a workshop on July 28 – Saturday – evening – if you’re local and would like to attend and find out more- email info@comfysales.com Pencil the date xx I will be covering what it’s like to live this way – and how you can start to get in touch with that rhythm inside to go after your deepest desires in your life and your business..

Lessons I learned from my African drumming class

December 22nd, 2011 | no comments

I was at my African drumming class today and boy did I have a blast as always.

The best part was I was quite aware of the voices in my head when I first learned that we would be going through the ‘basics’ again because we had a new student in class. At first I thought, oh no, what a waste of a class – I thought we were going to practice our solos and a rhythm we’d been working on for our performance night coming up.  As soon as I heard that voice come up I became aware that I just had a bit of resistance  – and perhaps I wasn’t opening up to what I could discover in that class if I dismissed it as a ‘waste of time’.

I wonder how often we do this when we’re learning a new skill or working on a project.  My class today taught me the importance of getting connected to the basics from time to time, even if it means taking stock mid way and making sure we understand the fundamentals.

Lesson 1: Getting connected to the basics from time to time keeps you on track and reminds you how far you’ve come – but it also shows you that you can keep adding new layers so when you hear something the second and third time, you make new connections which helps you master your craft.

Our African drumming teacher is from Ghana and I love his accent! I could listen to him all day and not tire of it – I swear I must’ve been African in another lifetime. So he says to the new student <<insert Ghanaian accent or Rafiki’s from the Lion King ;)>> , “Listen to your rhythm, – you listen to my one and you might start to enjoy it, but then you forget your own rhythm! You get distracted – that’s why you Must know your own rhythm or else you get confused.”

Wow – whoever thought you could get such wisdom attending a casual Monday night African drumming lesson!

Lessons to take away: When we don’t listen to our own inner voices, we start to forget our own music – and then we start to get distracted by looking at the rhythms and music outside ourselves. How often have you found yourself comparing yourself to others and thinking/believing that their lives are better than yours somehow..and that really distracts you, doesnt it?

You forget to appreciate your own gifts, your own life and the shiny things outside you- sway you – they might take you on another path – and before you know it – you’re out of tune with your own rhythm..  because you momentarily forgot to listen. Then when you attempt to get back to your rhythm you need to stop and listen again to the beat of your own drum.. to find your rhythm again. But once you do – all is well again : ) – and you know you’ve got it..and you realise that you need to stick to the rhythm of your own drum to make rhythms that ultimately rock!.