My head in the sand, bum up moment!
I wanted to share with you why I have been so quiet since my first blog where I let you know about my story and what I’m up to. I figured this picture totally captures my learnings and realisations over the past few weeks and I know that you will find some golden nuggets in here that you can relate to that will help you in your journey.
In my six years of living in Australia this was the first time I had actually seen a Koala in the wild – can you believe it?? My husband and I celebrated our 1st anniversary recently and snapped this photo on our way back from seeing the magnificent lighthouse in the Otways.
So what’s the connection between the Koala and what I want to share with you? It’s about my head in the sand moment in relating to my vision and my business and I wanted to be transparent in sharing it with you because I believe if it can happen to me, then it is likely to come up for you as well. My intention for sharing this story is so that you’re Aware of the different emotions that come up for you as your vision for your business unfolds – awareness is key – because instead of reacting you can notice what’s coming up and in that moment decide how you will respond to that emotion.
Have you ever noticed that when you say “YES!!” to your vision, there’s a part of you that starts resisting? I’ve had to move through a lot of resistance these past few weeks and wanted to find out what was really going on inside.
So I got really clear about who I wanted to help and started to get out there and have had amazing success with the coaches I’m working with and yet there was more to do – reaching a bigger audience. Just as I was about to hit the accelerator to go bigger – I was hit with resistance and found myself sabotaging myself as soon as I said Yes to part of my vision. It’s interesting to note that resistance can come up in different forms – it can creep up on you in the form of procrastinating, putting off important activities and phone calls that are required to get you moving. Resistance also rears its ugly head in the form of self doubt – doubting that my vision can really come about. Doubting that what I was creating was what I really wanted.
Society teaches us to utilise resistance as a way out; as an excuse mechanism.
For example, if you get sick when you’re about to take part in something really important – you can say to yourself “Oh I wasn’t meant to be really doing that anyway, so that’s probably why I got sick” and then you take yourself out of the game. One of my mentors Tara Marino shared with me that:
Resistance = rebirth and regrowth and I’m so glad I allowed this new definition to stick with me because I had a huge learning this week around resistance. My new definition of resistance has taught me that..
The more we resist something, the more this vision means to us, the more we desire it. So now I can look at resistance and go “Wow! This must mean there’s something Really Big on the other side of this”. Resistance is a Gift. So next time you experience resistance – it’s a sign that there must be something there that your heart is really desiring.
Generally we’re programmed to figure out Why we’re resisting something instead of just doing what we have to do to move through the resistance and get the gold that’s waiting on the other side of this invisible fence. I had my ‘moment’ of trying to figure out why I was resisting something – and let me tell you, it can be very exhausting.
I came up with all these excuses for why I didn’t want to continue to work with a group of people who are actually really special to me. I fabricated things in my head thinking I’m different from them and that I didn’t see how we’re aligned.-It just hit me that I had made it all up so I can give myself an excuse to leave through the back door; leaving at the moment when I was about to learn something that would really make a difference to my business and something my soul had been craving for.
So there you go..that was my head in the sand moment where I was in denial that I was actually resisting something. And of course when your head’s in the sand, you know that the only part of your anatomy that’s exposed is your bum 😉
I’d love to hear from you about your journey:
What are You still resisting ?
Ask yourself the question “Why have I allowed resistance to hold me still?”.
You can comment here or write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org – I love reading your thoughts and comments.
Remember..when you’re not resisting.. you’re more open to Receiving..