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The times when you don’t need or want clients or money – How to give yourself what you REALLY need!

February 8th, 2015 | 1 comment
You know.. when I had just given birth to my son Aqeel, I hadn’t even allowed myself to ask myself what I really wanted..

I thought I needed and wanted money that December (my first month after he was born) so I could feel supported. In the 3 months prior to his birth, I went out networking and was creating opportunities in my business to serve some new clients.. and the conversations that would come out of it.. were not so soul satisfying..

It felt like something was “off”

I had also just joined a high level mastermind and participated in a sales challenge with the group because I thought it was something that was productive at the time.. so I participated in it.. but my heart wasn’t in it. I just didn’t want to miss out. I didn’t want to lose on “breakthroughs”, “life lessons” if I didn’t join in.

Did I ask myself what I really wanted? No.

The result? I had sales conversations that weren’t going anywhere.. I felt like I was putting all this energy out and there was nothing coming out of it.. I was tired.

I was even making prospecting calls when I had mild contractions : ) My baby arrived the following night at 10:30pm on a full moon and lunar eclipse.

But because I wasn’t aware of what my real needs were or what I really wanted..

I thought I’d ask The Universe for Money.
I thought that would solve everything.

Yet that wasn’t what I really wanted.. And The Great Momma.. The Universe in all Her wisdom totally knew that : )  So of course she wouldn’t let me have it.. I wasn’t meant to sign on new clients. So what did I get? Lots of No’s. Or, “it’s not the right time”.. or some people who just didn’t see how I could help them. Frankly they weren’t a fit for me. My life at the time was just reflecting back to me the size of my faith.. the total lack of trust that I would be supported no matter what.

So all this energy Out. Very little in.

My recurrent theme in my sessions with my mentor was: “I am tired”. She pointed out to me that I was saying that an awful lot. And then her tone changed slightly and she asked me “What is it you Really want Nadhira?”

The tears started to roll down my cheeks. Probably because it was the first time I had connected back in with my Truth again and all this emotion was just energy in motion – energy needing to move through my system:  I said after a few seconds of silence:

 “I just want to have a break”

My coach said: “Then maybe you should ask for that. Allow yourself to gift yourself what you need.”

Hmm.. so much wisdom in that. It hit me like a ton of bricks! I felt sadness as I realised how much I must have be withholding from myself. Like how many other desires I had kept myself from experiencing. In this instance, a basic human need to rest after a period of exertion.  I hadn’t viewed childbirth as “work” or how much mental, emotional and physical endurance was required through that period.

When I got clear that what I really wanted was a break, my whole body just relaxed. I could stop focusing on doing income generating activities for that moment and shift my focus to what it is I really needed.

The cool thing is.. when you really listen and you gift yourself what you need.. after you have your break and really enjoy it.. guess what? You’re thrilled to be back : ) You have fresh energy and new insights and a ton of beautiful, loving energy to share!

1. Begin with voicing what it is you really want in the moment. Is it peace? Is it excitement and aliveness? Perhaps it’s “I would like to have a really good sleep” : ) Then allow yourself to have it. Take that nap! Go move your body if it’s feeling a bit sluggish or tight.

2. Journal and answer the question “How can I gift myself…………? (what you wrote in 1.)

3. Be open to what your intuition guides you with.

Now I’d like to hear from you in the comments.

Where have you been asking for Money or clients perhaps when what you really wanted and needed was something completely different?

This past holiday season I took the month of December and January off. I had One beautiful VIP day in December with gorgeous twin sisters and then just being there for my private client whilst she went through a website overhaul felt so nice and nurturing : )

I want to celebrate my Back to Work week by gifting you the opportunity to join me live for a free training I am doing on:

How to Network to find your ideal clients in the room every time. I am super excited to be teaching you the behind the scenes of how I network to find my clients in every room and I want to share my secrets with you

Will you join me? Mark your calendar for Thursday 12th February at 7pm  Melbourne Australia

Click Here to Register for the FREE Training!

 

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